Friday, September 9, 2011

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Congratulations!

I hope that all is going well for you as you are planning the details of your special day. A wedding is similar to a puzzle and has many pieces that must come together. One of those components is a minister who will walk with you and represent your relationship on your wedding day. If this is a piece of the puzzle that you are looking for, please contact me and we can make arrangements to plan a wonderful experience for you and your guests.

Many Blessings,

Pastor Kristopher Dahir

Saturday, August 22, 2009

The Vows

(Groom), do you take (Bride) to be your wedded wife,
to live together after God's ordinances in the holy estate of matrimony?
• Will you commit to developing a relationship of trust, hope, and, love?
• As you focus on a lifestyle of faithfulness as long as you both shall live?

(Bride), do you take (Groom)to be your wedded husband,
to live together after God's ordinances in the holy estate of matrimony?
• Will you commit to developing a relationship of trust, hope, and, love?
• As you focus on a lifestyle of faithfulness as long as you both shall live?

I,(Groom), take you (Bride) , to be my wedded wife,
To have and to hold from this day forward.
As we join our lives together,
I promise to love you, to honor you,
and trust you, putting your needs above my own.
I commit this day to face our tomorrow with courage and strength. I choose to cherish you.
May my love for you always encourage you
and help you to be all that God desires you to be.
My first act as your husband is to ask you to take my hands and walk this journey with me, as I pledge to you my love.

I, (Bride), take you (Groom) , to be my wedded husband,
To have and to hold from this day forward.
As we join our lives together,
I promise to love you, to honor you,
and trust you, putting your needs above my own.
I commit this day to face our tomorrow with courage and strength. I choose to cherish you.
May my love for you always encourage you and help you to be all that God desires you to be.

My first act as your wife is to take your hands and walk this journey with you, as I pledge to you my love.

Rings
With this ring, I thee wed, and all that I am, All that I have, And all that I ever hope to be, I give to you now. In the name of the Father, The Son, And the Holy Spirit.

My Teaching

Your Friendship...

Friendship is such an important part of your relationship.

A friend sticks closer than a brother…

Your Love...

Love is the key to making today a day that will last forever.

  • Love is a decision not a feeling.
  • The goal in any marriage relationship is that you cherish one another. Which means that you put the other person first before your own needs.
  • Talk about that love! It is precious and should be displayed.

Your Commitment...

We should not enter marriage with an attitude, "If it doesn't work out, we can always find someone else."

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes, but no plans”

God's Love...

Put your trust in God's love it is the example of what he wants to see in our marriage. It is also the foundation for everything that your lives and marriage should be built upon. Many people build on other things:

  • Job
  • Relationship
  • Health
  • Money
  • Position

All these things will pass away!

A couple key questions I ask people when they want to get married and when they come to my office for advice about marriage...

Are you on the same team?

If you are on the same team and one of your team mates hits you or runs into you. It's OK... they are on the same team. Even though it might hurt a bit. You will get up and they will help you up and things are good. But if someone from a different team hurts you man there is no looking back! A fight is a brewing.

It is the same in marriage. You will hurt each other. A matter of fact no one can hurt you quite like the one closest to you- your spouse. But if you are on the same team you know there was no intention to hurt or to start a fight.

Do you speak the same language?

I have come to the conclusion that many times people think that they speak the same language just because they speak English. Through my own marriage and watching others I know that it is not true. Men and women usually are speaking two different languages. Make sure you are communicating. Most problems come because people assume the other one understood.

Are you ready to give a 100%?

Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, it is 100/100! Laying your life down for the other person.

(Luke 6:38) "Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over...for with the measure you use, it will be measured to you."

Jesus gave his all for those he loved even when those he loved did not love him in return. That is our example

Civil Ceremony

Who gives this woman to be married to this man?

We are gathered here to celebrate...


Your Friendship...

Friendship is such an important part of your relationship.

A friend sticks closer than a brother…

Your Love...

Love is the key to making today a day that will last forever. Love is a decision not a feeling. Cherish

Talk about that love! It is precious and should be displayed.

Your Commitment...

We should not enter marriage with an attitude, "If it doesn't work out, we can always find someone else."

“Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes, but no plans”

All these things will pass away!

A couple key questions I ask people when they want to get married and when they come to my office for advice about marriage...

Are you on the same team?

If you are on the same team. Say football and one of your team mates hits you or runs into you. It's OK... they are on the same team. Even though it might hurt a bit. You will get up and they will help you up and things are good. But if someone from a different team hurts you man there is no looking back! A fight is a brewing.

It is the same in marriage. You will hurt each other. A matter of fact no one can hurt you quite like the one closest to you- your spouse. But if you are on the same team you know there was no intention to hurt or to start a fight.

Do you speak the same language?

I have come to the conclusion that many times people think that they speak the same language just because they speak English. Through my own marriage and watching others I know that it is not true. Men and women usually are speaking two different languages. Make sure you are communicating. Most problems come because people assume the other one understood.

Are you ready to give a 100%?

Marriage is not a 50/50 proposition, it is 100/100! Laying your life down for the other person.


Declaration of Consent

_________, do you take ______ to be your wedded wife,

to live in the holy estate of matrimony?

Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her,

in sickness and in health, forsaking all others,

remaining faithful unto her as long as you both shall live?


________, do you take _____ to be your wedded husband,

to live together in the holy estate of matrimony?

Will you love him, comfort him, honor and keep him,

in sickness and in health, forsaking all others,

remaining faithful unto him as long as you both shall live?


(Please turn towards one another, join right hands and repeat after me)

Vows

I, ____, take you ______ , to be my wedded wife,

To have and to hold from this day forward.

As we join our lives together,

I promise to Love you to honor,

and trust you, putting your needs above my own.

I promise to stand with you through times of abundance

and through times of hardship

May my love for you always encourage you

and bring joy into each moment we have together.

Please take my hands and walk with me

as I pledge to you my love.


I, _______, take you _______, to be my wedded husband

To have and to hold from this day forward.

As we join our lives together,

I promise to love you, to honor,

and trust you, putting your needs above my own.

I promise to stand with you through times of abundance

and through times of hardship

May my love for you always encourage you

and bring joy into each moment we have together.

I will take your hands and walk with you

as I pledge to you my love.


Rings please- it is a statement to the world!

Repeat after me X 2

With this ring,

I thee wed, and all that I am,

All that I have,

And all that I ever hope to be,

I give to you now.


By the power invested in me-- I pronounce you husband & wife!

You may kiss the bride!

I am excited to be t he first to introduce ….